Happiness is not when you get this or that prize. Happiness is when you accept all that life has in store for you, good bad beautiful and ugly. In other words, nothing is good bad beautiful and ugly in your perception. Unhappiness is not when we are deprived of material things that others have. It is when we refuse to accept the reality we are experiencing right now. In other words, not liking the fact that we are unhappy is more unhappy than the fact that we are unhappy. Happiness is when we are truly free. Free from fear, lust, greed, jealousy, anger, and craving all for things pleasant such as glory, abundance of material wealth etc... That's why happiness is not something we pursue but something we allow.